Are you too humble for your own good?

Think about all those relentless, shameless self-promoters you know. They’re kind of insufferable, but they’re usually pretty damn good at making money, right?

(picture Shooter McGavin)

But if you’re reading this, you’re probably not one of them.

You’re probably one of the people on the flip side of that: all the people who are great at what they do, treat people with respect and integrity, and don’t seek out the spotlight.

And unfortunately, those people tend to get ignored and overlooked, because the world rewards loud people who draw attention to themselves.

I wish it wasn’t like that— but I don’t make the rules 🤷

If that sounds familiar and you’re tired of getting overlooked, here’s a few thoughts:

You’re not bragging, you’re just “getting credit”

A lot of people don’t want to share their accomplishments because they’re uncomfortable with the idea of “bragging.”

And I get that: bragging is gross. That word makes me think of dudes posing with their Ferrarri, taking a pic of their fancy watch, etc— yuck.

So don’t brag. Instead, just make sure you get credit for what you’ve done. You’re not trying to impress anyone, you just want to tell them what you did.

That’s it! Nothing douchey about that, right?

Try this format:

• Where I started

• What I learned

• Where I ended

So maybe the post/video is something like: “Holy crap, 150 people came to our meetup! I’ve never run an in-person event before so this was new to me— here’s what I learned”

That way it’s not just “Hey guys I did this, please like it.” You’re getting credit for something you’ve done, but you’re also helping the audience.

They won’t know unless you tell them

Don’t assume anyone knows anything about you.

They don’t.

And that’s not because you suck, it’s just that people are busy. They don’t have time to know anything more than the bare basics about us.

→ For example, could you name the companies half your friends work at? Probably not.

→ Another example: I constantly get comments telling me that I should host an interview show on YouTube… but the punchline is that I did over 200 interviews! But whatever reason, these people obviously never saw them.

This is why I constantly include screenshots of my analytics, media appearances, etc.

Maybe some people think it’s “bragging,” but I don’t. I just think about it this way:

If someone followed me yesterday and didn’t know anything about me, what would I want them to know about me?

(that I’m charming, stylish, hilarious and most of all HUMBLE)

How would anyone know these things about me if I didn’t tell them? They’re not going to google me and compile a list of all the things I’ve done, right? So I have to do it for them.

And you can’t just say these things once.

You have to say them again and again for YEARS if you want it to sink in.

Anyone hating was never really your friend

I think a lot of the reason people are so hesitant to talk about themselves isn’t that THEY think it’s bragging— it’s because they’re afraid OTHER PEOPLE will see it as bragging and judge them for it.

And honestly, that may happen.

You might share something cool you did along with something interesting you learned from it, and someone might roll their eyes and mumble some hating-ass sht about “bragging.”

→ But so what?

Let’s think about this for a minute. If someone reacts that way when you share something you’re proud of, do you care what they think?

Were they ever really your friend or supporter in the first place?

→ The answer should be FK NO 🙅🏻‍♀️

Anybody who wants you to silence yourself and hide in the shadows, afraid to talk about what you’ve achieved, is NOT your friend.

They want you to hold yourself back because they’re unhappy with their own lives— and misery loves company, so they want you to be miserable too.

So don’t let the judgement of these negative people stop you from putting yourself out there.

Their opinions mean NOTHING.

Get credit for what you’ve done! Make sure everybody knows your story, and don’t let anyone stop you from sharing it.

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